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Reclaim & Rise -
Scapegoat Survivor's Healing Toolkit
Take control of your healing journey and rise above the pain of the past. Empower yourself with the tools and support needed to reclaim your life and thrive.
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The Main Benefits You'll Experience
Understand your emotions better (sooner)
Find clarity in your feelings, allowing you to heal more effectively and regain control of your emotional well-being.
Recognize the healing steps you can take
Identify actionable steps that bring you closer to a life of peace and empowerment.
Empower yourself and those who support you
Strengthen your inner resolve and build a support system that champions your recovery.
Simplify your healing journey at every turn
Break down the process of recovery into manageable steps, making each stage of healing more approachable.
Feel validated and understood every single day
Learn techniques to ensure your feelings are acknowledged, giving you the support you deserve in your journey.
Not having a clear path to healing is the biggest obstacle to your recovery...
Failing to implement a step-by-step plan for your emotional recovery can leave you feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Just as a journey needs a map, your healing process requires structure and guidance. Without it, you risk revisiting the same pain, unable to move forward.
Creating a structured approach to your healing isn’t just about following steps—it's about giving yourself the best chance to reclaim your life, embrace your resilience, and move toward a future of peace and empowerment.
Having a roadmap not only provides clarity but also helps you track your progress, ensuring that every step you take is one closer to the life you deserve.
Don’t let the absence of a plan be the reason you remain in the shadows of your past.
Here's why over 90% of survivors struggle to find lasting peace and empowerment
Lack of a Clear Healing Path
Without a defined approach, survivors often feel lost, unable to see a way forward through their pain and past trauma.
Insufficient Support Systems
Healing alone is incredibly challenging—many struggle because they lack the community and resources needed to thrive.
Unresolved Emotional Trauma
Failing to address deep-seated emotional wounds can lead to recurring pain, making it hard to move forward.
Fear of Confronting the Past
Many survivors avoid revisiting their painful experiences, which prevents them from fully processing and healing.
Inconsistent Healing Practices
Without consistent self-care and healing rituals, progress can be slow and discouraging, leaving survivors feeling stuck.
Here's what those who find lasting healing do right:
They commit to their healing journey with intention and consistency.
Survivors who successfully reclaim their lives often have a clear, step-by-step plan, ensuring that they address every aspect of their trauma.
They surround themselves with supportive communities and resources, recognizing the power of collective strength in overcoming their challenges. These individuals prioritize self-care, maintaining consistent practices that nurture their well-being and foster resilience.
By confronting their past with courage, they not only process their pain but also transform it into a source of strength. They understand that healing is a journey, not a destination, and they embrace every step with patience and self-compassion.
Prioritize What's Essential to Your Healing
You don't want to spend years stuck in the same emotional patterns, missing out on the life you deserve. Just like startups need to act quickly to find success, your healing journey requires focused, intentional steps.
The Healing Toolkit is your step-by-step guide to adopting the mindset of 'You can heal from anything, but you can't heal from everything at once.'
It’s about concentrating your energy where it matters most, simplifying your path to recovery and empowerment.
Learn how to process your emotions, build resilience, and establish a foundation of peace, whether you’re just starting your healing journey or you’ve been working on it for a while. All within a realistic timeline that fits your unique pace.
Let’s make your healing journey straightforward and successful.
Your Ultimate Healing Blueprint
Step-by-Step: From Surviving to Thriving
This toolkit is a comprehensive, well-researched guide that takes you through every essential element you need for your healing journey. It offers practical, actionable strategies to help you navigate the complexities of recovering from narcissistic abuse.
What’s Inside:
Worksheet: 3 Pillars of Recovery - Monthly Plan
A structured approach to organizing your recovery process, focusing on key areas of healing each month.
Quick Guide to Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse:
A concise, easy-to-follow guide that outlines the essential steps to start your recovery and regain control of your life.
Book: Growing Up as the Scapegoat to Narcissistic Parents
In-depth insights into the unique challenges faced by scapegoats, along with practical advice and strategies for overcoming them.
Whether you’re just beginning your recovery or seeking to deepen your healing, this toolkit offers step-by-step examples and advice to help you thrive.
Simplify your journey to recovery with expert guidance and practical tools.
Benefits of the Reclaim & Rise - Survivor's Healing Toolkit
Compassion
Narcissistic parents project their self-hatred onto the scapegoat child, labeling them as the root of the family's problems. See through the confusion to know that you were forced to adopt these negative conclusions about yourself. Discover compassion.
Protection
You cannot heal when you are still being narcissistically abused. Learn the importance of gaining distance from such people. Work through the guilt that comes with separation. Identify and find safe people to be close to. Live a protected life.
Freedom
Scapegoat survivors continue to suffer after childhood because they have had to believe they are defective and undeserving. Learn how to identify the beliefs you may hold about yourself and how to challenge them so that life goes from constricted to expansive. Freedom is possible.
You Are Not Alone
If you survived childhood as a scapegoat to a narcissistic parent you will find yourself in these pages. Real-life case examples and histories detail what it is like for the scapegoat child and adult survivor. Finding commonality with what other scapegoats survived lets you know you are no longer isolated.
Put Yourself First Now
As a scapegoat child you were probably called 'selfish' a lot. Not because this is true but because a narcissistic parent sees their desires as most important so anyone who does not go along with this gets called 'selfish'. Learn how to dispel this illusion by making self-care your top priority.
A Map to Recovery
The journey to healing does not happen overnight for scapegoat survivors. But it can happen. You will understand the 3 essential elements to recovery and how to put them into action in your life.
Here is a sneak peak of the Book
What Else is Included in the Toolkit
Guide to Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
Things can get confusing for the scapegoat survivor when trying to break free from the past.
The habits of seeing yourself as defective and undeserving can be stubborn.
This guide reminds you how and why your narcissistic parent deprived, devalued and controlled you.
It also shows you the 3 Pillars of Recovery so that you keep these principles in mind as you navigate your life.
These pillars guide you towards compassion, protection and freedom for yourself.
Monthly Plan to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse Worksheet
The 3 Pillars Recovery will help you recover from narcissistic abuse as a scapegoat child.
The key is applying these principles in your life and sticking with them.
This worksheet helps you reflect upon and plan how you will do this each month.
Go from theory to practice so that you get the results you deserve.
What People are Saying
Remarkable, workable insights on how to detach and heal from your narcissistic family system!
Psychologist Jay Reid focuses his practice on helping scapegoat survivors of narcissistic parents understand how they coped as children, why they needed to develop unconscious defenses, and how these defenses are still operating and causing problems in their lives today.
He explains how the narcissistic parent uses the scapegoat child to offload the parent's feelings of worthlessness, why they need to see their child as worthless and themselves as superior, and how this treatment affects the child's sense of self.
The author was a scapegoated child himself and he has first-hand experience of what it takes to heal.
This book is easy to read, has no fluff, no padding, and is filled with light bulbs and resonance.
It's the best book (of many) I've read on this topic, and I can't recommend it highly enough!
Great Book for Family/Society Scapegoats
Easy read, super on point, directly addresses the horrific phenomenon, offers hope and solutions.
Life changing for me... From stressed and confused to Free and Clear-minded
I listened to several different youtubers talking about narcissism and scapegoats. All of them helped explain the situation you were in and the type of person you were dealing with, but none were able to help me change my mode of thinking or to even see the scapegoat modes of thinking I had been raised to think with.
I randomly tried one of Jay Reid's videos one day, and I was surprised at his understanding of the thoughts and ways I questioned myself because of narcissistic scapegoating.
After watching his videos for a few weeks, I bought the book and slowly read through it for about 6 months, working through my thought patterns to recode how I viewed life or thought. I took off the scapegoat "glasses" and began to be free to be me, and it has been a huge change in mental freedom.
From feeling on guard or on duty 24/7 most of my life, to thinking about what I enjoy and not feeling pressure to answer to anyone but healthy relationships.
My husband and children are very thankful to see me finally healing and feeling much more free. His book is spot on and I highly recommend it for anyone who has grown up as a scapegoat.
One of my absolute favorite teachers/therapist /survivor of Scapegoating family dysfunction
I listened to several different youtubers talking about narcissism and scapegoats. All of them helped explain the situation you were in and the type of person you were dealing with, but none were able to help me change my mode of thinking or to even see the scapegoat modes of thinking I had been raised to think with.
I randomly tried one of Jay Reid's videos one day, and I was surprised at his understanding of the thoughts and ways I questioned myself because of narcissistic scapegoating.
After watching his videos for a few weeks, I bought the book and slowly read through it for about 6 months, working through my thought patterns to recode how I viewed life or thought. I took off the scapegoat "glasses" and began to be free to be me, and it has been a huge change in mental freedom.
From feeling on guard or on duty 24/7 most of my life, to thinking about what I enjoy and not feeling pressure to answer to anyone but healthy relationships.
My husband and children are very thankful to see me finally healing and feeling much more free. His book is spot on and I highly recommend it for anyone who has grown up as a scapegoat.
One of the best books I've read on the topic
Reading the book has been a very insightful and comforting experience for me. It has often provoked deep emotions in me, which rarely happened with other similar books. What distinguishes this book is its supportive, warm therapeutic approach.
From the very first pages you immediately realize that the book is centred mainly on the scapegoat child's painful emotions and unconscious beliefs, not so much on the narcissist parent's disorder. It is definitely not a „theoretical and scientific analysis” of narcissism, but a beautifully humane and supportive sharing of useful information, an encouraging and friendly voice for all those people who are still searching acceptable explanations for what they went through.
I appreciated the author's great understanding of the many aspects of parental narcissism and their impact on the scapegoat child, his warmth and humility in treating this difficult topic.
I found very helpful and enlightening also the many cases he chose to illustrate his views so that, when I realized I was approaching the end of the book, I felt somehow sad.
Which shows that the book is really well written. I definitely recommend it to anyone who wants to learn more about scapegoat children and parental narcissism and hope it can be as helpful as it had been to me.
Extremely well written and organized book about Narcissistic Scapegoating
It's baffling how well it is written and tightly organized to contain most domains in "being the scapegoat experience"
I like how the writer actually gives ultimatums to every problem, especially their cause, and follows simple cause and effect thinking.
Even highly regarded mental health books shy away from simple cause and effect thinking, and try to blame invisible entities or phenomenons instead of being direct.
Highly recommend reading it if you struggle with being the narcissist's scapegoat for most of your life.
Heck I even bought a physical copy to support the author and also to have some physical quotes nearby if I ever need to refreshen my mind.
This book is valuable like gold to me, providing extremely specified information in a collected and organized matter.
I didn't know I had a textbook life until....
I read this book. I had been following Jay Reid on YouTube and his blog and was so excited to see him publish this book; I ordered it immediately.
This book is a brilliant distillation of how scapegoated children develop in relation to their narcissistic parents.
The book is organized around 3 basic principles: 1. making sense of what happened, 2. getting distance from the narcissistic abuser, 3. living in defiance of the narcissist's rules.
With the kindness, compassion, and curiosity SG children were denied by their narc parents, Jay Reid gently uses the 3 pillars of recovery above to help survivors learn who we are outside of the narc's pathological projection identification.
Perhaps most importantly, Reid encourages readers to embrace rather than disown the adaptions SG's had to make to survive some of the darkest possible psychological abuse a child can suffer.
Those adaptations are what got us out alive.
The book has concrete case studies that help the reader feel seen and heard in their own experience. The prose style is clear, logical, and engaging. Each chapter begins with curiosity--a set of questions that allows the SG child to feel they are in a place of loving curiosity.
I highly recommend it! You are worth the investment in this book.
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Reclaim & Rise -
Survivor's Healing Toolkit
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Gain clarity on what you survived as the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent.
Then learn the 3 essential principles to reclaiming the quality of life you have always deserved.
This book takes the reader into the lives of the scapegoat child and survivor.
You will see that you are not alone in what you went through AND that there is a path towards recovery available to you.
Make Sense of What Happened (So You Know It Was Not Your Fault).
Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Abuse Today.
Defy the Rules for Survival You Had to Follow in Childhood.
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Keep focused on the 3 principles of recovery.
Set intentions for how you will apply these principles in your life.
Track your progress in doing so.
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My Toolkit has empowered over 6500+ survivors to heal, reclaim their lives, and build a future filled with strength and resilience.
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FAQs
Will this book really make a difference in my life?
This book is chock-full of real-life stories of scapegoat survivors of narcissistic parents.
Time and again readers exclaim how validating this book has been in understanding their own experience. Healing from being a scapegoat child involves coming out of the isolation that was forced upon you.
This book will help you do that.
What if I am unsatisfied with my purchase
You will have a 7-day money back guarantee. If, for any reason, you are not satisfied with your purchase within the 7-day window just email me at [email protected] and I will grant a refund. No questions asked.
Is this book the same that is sold on Amazon?
Yes. If you have already purchased on Amazon then you need not purchase it here.
Meet the Author
Jay Reid, M.S., LPCC
M.S. Clinical Psychology
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC)
I am a licensed practicing psychotherapist in San Francisco, CA. I've been working with survivors of narcissistic abuse since 2014.
I focus on this area for a couple reasons:
Survivors have had to falsely believe they are much worse than they are - that's not fair! Therapy involves working towards knowing the 'good news' that they are much better than they've been made to believe.
I know what it's like to be the scapegoat in my own family of origin. I find purpose and meaning in working with other survivors as they reclaim the quality of life they deserve.
In addition to doing therapy, I work to promote recovery from narcissistic abuse more broadly. I post weekly videos on this topic on a Youtube Channel with over 33,000 subscribers.
I am also working to get the concept of narcissistic abuse into the academic world and have published an journal article on how a narcissistic parent can force a child to believe they deserve the parent's abuse.
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