Here’s a map to the life you deserve.
To survive narcissistic abuse as the scapegoat, you have to believe some pretty terrible things about yourself. Things like:
"If I'm not being productive then I'm worthless"
"I don't deserve protection"
"I am defective"
"I am unattractive"
"I am always 1 mistake away from complete ruin"
You may be reading this because you know - deep down - that you deserve better.
Every survivor has to answer this question for themselves. BUT you can get to your answers more quickly with the right MAP.
My Online Course to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse offers just this kind of map.
Trying to recover from narcissistic abuse without a map can leave you feeling like:
Imagine if you had a map to recovery that helped you know that:
A Thriving Community of Survivors
Do you often wonder if you're making all of this up? Survivors of narcissistic abuse likely were treated in ways designed to make them question their perceptions, judgments and even their own reality. This step offers a coherent and compassionate understanding of what you went through so that you get to see it was not your fault.
Psychological and emotional distance from the stress of narcissistic abuse is an essential part of recovery. In this section you'll learn and practice why such distance is not something to feel guilty about but is an essential act of self-care.
Module 3: The importance of distance from the narcissistic family
Module 4: Identifying 'safe' people as friends and partners
Survivors of narcissistic abuse often have to survive by believing falsehoods about themselves that lead to suffering. In these modules, you will learn to identify such beliefs you may have adopted and learn how to successfully challenge and disconfirm them.
Module 5: Free yourself from beliefs that keep you ‘at home’
Module 6: Separating lovability from competence
One of the worst parts about narcissistic abuse is how alone the survivor often feels. Not anymore! This private facebook group is a community designed exclusively for course students. We emphasize validating your experience in the narcissistic abuse you survived AND recognizing each other's unique strengths as the person they are. Both are important for recovery and the group is designed to offer that.
"I'm hard pressed to think of anything that has been as effective in my life and on my mindset in such a quick, clear and comprehensive way as this course. It really is a balm to the soul and has made such an enormous difference for me."
"This course is packed with mind-opening insights into both the abuse and how to recover from it. There is no padding or fluff, and at times it felt as if his every sentence laid out a breakthrough concept for me."
"Tremendously helpful for the recovery process...it’s a real bargain."
"The content has been great. Concise, dense but intelligible and incredibly relevant."
"I have read countless books and have attempted counseling a couple of times in my life and have never felt so in sync with what I am learning...Registering for this course was the best gift I could have possibly given myself at this point in my life."
"Jay’s course gave me...several key ideas that I had never come across in all my years of research to understand the narcissistic abuse I experienced."
"[The most helpful part of this course was]...the concise and wonderfully articulate explanations of how these family systems work, and mechanisms of psychological wounding that happens to the scapegoat in childhood."
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC)
I am a licensed practicing psychotherapist in San Francisco, CA. I've been working with survivors of narcissistic abuse since 2014.
I focus on this area for a couple reasons:
In addition to doing therapy, I work to promote recovery from narcissistic abuse more broadly. I post weekly videos on this topic on a Youtube Channel with over 12,000 subscribers. I am also working to get the concept of narcissistic abuse into the academic world and have published an journal article on how a narcissistic parent can force a child to believe they deserve the parent's abuse.
"Nothing out there resonates as well with me as a former scapegoat, than how Jay explains things.
I really feel understood and encouraged to trust my own perception again."
"The explanations are so solid and compassionate. I have been reading about dysfunctional and narcissistic families for some time and there are other good things out there, but this is the first time I feel like someone has truly described me and what has happened inside me and given me a strategy for healing myself.."
8 Videos (4+ hours total) + Assignments
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"This is exactly what I needed. Jay is excellent as I have already become aware of from his Youtube videos. I am so glad this course is available."
"I've also benefitted from the combined wisdom in the facebook group. It's so refreshing to speak to other people who were impacted by these same patterns. It's helpful to learn from other people's comments. It's helping me release my harsh self-blame for situations I wished I'd managed differently. Thank you for that. "
"Jay understands the impact of having survived a narcissistic family as a scapegoat in a way that no one else does. His insights are unique and have allowed me to view narcissistic abuse from a different angle. These videos have helped me tremendously on my healing journey to put into context what I have survived as well as providing me with the tools necessary to heal. I recommend Jay's videos to anyone who has been a scapegoat!"
Can I get my money back?
Yes! If you determine you are unsatisfied with the course for any reason, simply email me at email@example.com within 7 days of purchase and I will generate a full refund within 48 hours. No questions asked!
How long do I have to access the course and the facebook group?
Forever. Once you purchase the course you will have lifetime access to its contents.
Is the course self-study or supervised learning?
The videos and assignments are self-study. The accompanying private Facebook group for survivors of narcissistic abuse is a realtime forum to discuss the course, your progress in recovery, and get support for yourself.
Is this original content or videos already on YouTube?
This course is all original content. A lot of time, research, and thought was put into creating an accessible and results-oriented course that can help you further your recovery.
"Jay's course has helped me do a deep dive into an understanding of being a scapegoat of a narcissistically abusive family system. Jay explains things in a way that resonates and that I can understand."